mega self-absorption

i realized that i like actors and follow them especially how they are in their private lives (thanks to Yes mag, ETC and all those blind items thrown by ogie diaz).  thus, despite their box-office hits (which i watch at times, esp. when i have free passes!) and their "nouveau rich" lifestyle (and kitschy taste), when they all turn "diva" and get all self-absorbed, i automatically dislike them and commit to boycotting them for life.

sharon's bratty-ness (that she thought could pass off as a "joke") was so age-inappropriate. she claimed to be nagtatampo with Aga M. because she was left in the dark and uninformed whether they were pushing thru with a movie or not. she even justified her behavior by saying that she was not a "starlet" at all, that she has made a name for herself after years of hard work.


WTF?!!! Aga is not the Producer nor the Casting Director.  he is, like her, an actor in that supposed film. why would he be compelled to give her an update? i do not also understand why she had to remind Aga (and everyone else who might be watching that interview, like me, sadly) that she worked her (big) as* off to be where she is now.  That assertion of fact is off-tangent and made her sound haughty, mighty and proud.  i wanted to bang her head against the wall to knock some sense into it that it was not purely hard work (because even directors and the prod staff put in hard work, ano bah?!!) but her following paved the way for her to be where she is now.

yung hirit niya kay Aga sa concert pa talaga ni Ms Ai niya ginawa! hello! ultimate self-centeredness!  it was not even her show to begin with! she was just a guest yet she threw her weight around.  just because. she was the mega star? hello! lea salonga was there! yet she was her usual dignified, professional self.

gosh, sharon. you are not the only "daddy's girl" in the world! you are not the only rich, accomplished woman on earth! hindi lang ikaw ang anak ng Diyos na pwedeng mag-inarte dahil gusto mong magpa-kyoot!

then from nowhere, you threw in bits and pieces of aga's alleged "pagkukulang" -- that he doesn't text you enough, he didn't watch your show (but he watched Ms Ai's thus, personally witnessing how you lambasted him in Araneta), that he doesn't find time for you.   sheesh, the world does not revolve around you! people around you have (their own) lives. it is not their fault if you are so bored being you that you started to like picking on people.

then you say that "friends should never be like this, and that.." over! you should introspect first and ask yourself if you could call yourself (his) friend after doing that (to him) publicly.

i am no perfect friend, and when my life becomes its own creature, unfolding into chapters and layers of organized chaos and flurry of activities, i am either an absentee friend (especially during reunions!) or a late replier to SMS, emails and phone calls (read: a day behind) BUT i was never judged by my friends. maybe, just maybe, because their lives are as "alive and dynamic". or maybe, because, i never held any grudge for an unreplied (to) SMS, missed calls, days' old emails, worse, a few get togethers on perennial raincheck or forever on "planning" mode.

this, i think, is what friendship is all about. one's respect for the other's life (and all related activities living it) and a fiery commitment to take off from where you left off.  i am blessed to have friends whom i've (last) seen a few months (some, years') back.  yet when we get to chat (online) or meet up for dinner --- we all are open to listening to each other's happy (and sob) stories, we share so many giggles and buckets of tears (sometimes in one sitting over a gazillion-topic conversations.) i have my share of self-absorbed moments, drowning in sorrow or intoxicated in giddy-ness but my friends and i never made public our issues of each other. you might think we are not public figures anyway, that we aren't even an inch close to being "showbiz" but regardless of who/what you are, you are either a friend or not.  and regardless of your predispositions or your societal status or your special position at home, every thing is not about you.

at the end of the day, i think, sharon is showing every sign of being a has-been. KSP kasi.  sadly, not even her amassed wealth (acquired and inherited) could bring back her svelte figure, este, glory days.