QT is platinum

i had a wonderful, chill-out dinner with mr p last night in cyma, where we feasted on our usuals (his is pork souvlaki and ice cold beer, mine is salad and a main.) i had caesar salad and ribs with rice.

we agreed on having a once a week night-out given our new work schedules that are un-synchronized and yes, stressful. last Friday was my 1st week at work, and even without a Unit assigned to me yet, i was already busy. he, on the other hand, was given a new Soap, which undoubtedly would be requiring him to stay at work longer than usual until it finally gets on-air.

funny, how good friends know us so well that julia even asked how i was managing our "usuals" now that i'm back in pms. (usuals: seriously late dinner with mr p then movie marathon or watching our fave series until i fall asleep.). i told her that i was home 8PM-ish for the past week, and there have been times that he wasn't home yet. so he would take his dinner break at home just so we could catch up on things or just be together. then i would nap when he leaves and stay up a bit when he comes home to ask how his work was (and he usually needs some talk time). but mr p and i both know that we would have to dedicate some time for our Twogether time because our work would eventually demand more from us. (and i just realized how potent we have become: showbusiness and politics. #winningcombo #supercouple)

and julia also reiterates that we need some QT if only to not go crazy about our jobs and more importantly to remind us on what truly matters as it really should. at that point, i am blessed because i realized that when i tend to forget about VERY important things, i have friends that would remind me of it.

on a related side, compatibility is also key for a sustainable relationship (i sound so development specialist here! acckk.).

i enjoyed a despedida de soltera of some sort (which was just really a heartwarming, loud and fun reunion with my pms friends/co-unit last friday. over endless servings of our fave Jap food in zensho, we teased and grilled our friend, L, if she were ready for the big day. being so L, she started to rant and rave and with a lot of hysteria, shared her thoughts about marriage, getting married and in-laws. and since we have our lawyer-friend, M, with us, we naturally progressed to talking about annulment and how i went through it, etcetera. M, handling similar cases himself, shared how marriage seems to "make different" existing romantic relationships.

i remember him saying that marriage compels the couples to adhere to norms and execute their obligations, when living-in attaches no obligations at all. while i agree that compatibility is crucial because it does seem un-imaginable for two people to have fun when they are totally off-sync. HOWEVEr, we havent't factored in their decision, commitment and desire to be together, no matter how an odd couple they are perceived to be. likewise, any relationship, whether supported by legal, formal papers or not, does have minimum requirements to begin with: respect and faithfulness. (i do not claim to be an expert on relationships but these two are non-negotiables.). oh, and yes, QT is premium at this day and age. i know of friends who have dedicated a day for them alone or of those who do not sleep without talking or sharing even silence and their quiet time. they do not have to have occasions to celebrate. they are, i think, power couples themselves. pinaninindigan nila ang pinasukan nilang commitment.

i learn much every day. i learn from friends and strangers, from difficult situations to no-sweat experiences. and i am thankful that i simply need to look around and assess how my friends are doing, and i learn from them --- busy, career persons that they are, they know what truly matter in life.

i guess, i am indeed in good company.